36 ways to cultivate gratitude

November 19 2017
  1. Write a letter.
  2. Meditate.
  3. Look at old photos.
  4. Go for a walk.
  5. Cook a special meal.
  6. Start a journal.
  7. Send flowers.
  8. Bake cookies.
  9. Take new photos.
  10. Compliment someone.
  11. Sit in nature.
  12. Praise a colleague.
  13. Call a relative.
  14. Hug warmly.
  15. Savor a cup of tea.
  16. Listen to soft music.
  17. Smile.
  18. Concentrate on your breathing.
  19. Acknowledge a stranger.
  20. Teach what you know.
  21. Block out time in your calendar.
  22. Surprise a…

Power down

November 10 2017

Do you power down your devices or put them to sleep? Are your machines and electronics constantly running or do you turn them off to conserve energy?

What about yourself?

When was the last time you gave yourself a day to “switch off” — a day disconnected from alerts and email dings and calendar reminders. A day powered down and turned inward to reflect and enjoy the people around you.

Schedule one…


Close but not too close

November 05 2017

Intimacy isn’t only found in relationships. The energy you put into work and into yourself also requires closeness, attention, warmth, and care.

How much effort are you putting forth? What are you holding back? Are you “all in” or hesitantly waiting to see how things pan out?

It is natural to build mechanisms to protect yourself from pain and disappointment and failure. But if the defenses you’ve built are stopping you…


Pace yourself

October 23 2017

No runner wants to crawl across the finish line. Racers practice their pace and know how much energy they need to exert for each mile.

Entrepreneurs need this skill, too.

Go all out in the beginning and you risk having little steam in reserves. Aim for a steady stream of effort and intention, however, and you will have the endurance and patience to persevere through even the most challenging situations.

It matters less…


What is your sacrifice?

October 04 2017

If you don’t have an answer, you don’t love it enough.

If you care, REALLY care about (fill in blank with your: project, partner, job, client), you will sacrifice something. Results don’t come without sacrifice.

You might sacrifice time or quality or money or reputation or fame.

But if you don’t know what you have sacrificed, either you don’t care enough or you aren’t fully aware. And the only way you…


Two communication channels

September 28 2017

Communication is a cornerstone of healthy, successful relationships. Your ability to communicate affects all aspects of your life: your workplace, at home, in personal relationships, even your vacation.

We can define communication in one of two categories, open or closed channels.

Open channels:

Are clear and direct
Leave less room for misinterpretation and confusion
Energy flows freely
Creativity is encouraged

Closed channels:

Can be vague and dismissive
Result in assumptions and over-analysis


Two factors to measure success

September 24 2017

How do you measure your success, is is the numbers in your bank account, your title at the firm, the number of clients you land in a month? In this moment, do you consider yourself a failure? Or would you describe yourself as a success?

I have written about how we define and measure success and have asked monks and entrepreneurs and academics what they think. So…


“What took you the longest to learn?”

September 18 2017

Oprah asks her guests this question on her Super Soul podcasts. A thoughtful pause follows, and the answer is often a mix of wistfulness, courage, sometimes even regret.

How would you answer the same question?
What lesson has taken you the longest to learn?


Stop playing small

September 07 2017

What would you do if there were no obstacles?
If money and time were not considerations?
If you knew you would not fail?

Your playing small serves no one.


Recognizing distance

September 01 2017

We often consider how far we have to left to go.

Three more days until holiday.
$10,000 to hit our fundraiser.
Two terms left in the fiscal year.
Four more miles in this run.
Six credits to meet requirements.

Yet how often do we measure and appreciate the distance we’ve traveled?

Let the ground you’ve already covered fuel you.